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Is it ever ok to ask your bridesmaid to dye her hair?

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A bride has sparked outrage by asking her bridesmaid to dye her hair for her wedding day – would you do it?

A bride asked her bridesmaid to dye her naturally ginger hair brown to ‘blend in’ with the other bridesmaids who are all brunette. The bridesmaid took to Reddit to discuss her concerns in a post that has since gone viral.

The redheaded lady wrote that she has known her friend ‘Ella’ since she was a child and readily accepted her offer to be part of her bridal party. Yesterday morning she received an email from Ella asking her to dye her hair, it stated:

‘You’ll need to dye your hair for the day, I’ll take you to my hairdresser and cover the cost :).’


I’m a natural ginger, so it’s not like I have an outrageous hair colour, although Ella and her other bridesmaids are all brunettes.


I texted Ella about it, she told me my hair would clash with the wedding colours and that brides get a veto over pretty much every aspect of her bridesmaids’ appearances. She also mentioned my hair is quite ‘attention-grabbing’ and I’d take away from the cohesiveness of the group. I told her I wasn’t comfortable dying my hair.” The bride’s response? “She said she’d get back to me but hoped I’d reconsider.

The other bridesmaids are also insistent that the redhead should dye her hair and have been texting her to do so.

Reddit users have been quick to jump to her defence, calling the bride a ‘serious bridezilla,’ and a lot worse.

Do you think it’s acceptable to ask your bridesmaid to dye her naturally ginger hair? The Wedding Journal team think it’s not, after all the bride would have been aware of her bridesmaid’s hair colour before asking her to be part of the bridal party – if Ella had a problem with ginger hair then she shouldn’t have asked her to be her bridesmaid in the first place.

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